Please be emphatic!

The highest form of knowledge is empathy.

Bill Bullard

I do not understand how it's possible to see many people worried about their appearance when 99% of people all over the world don't feel embarrassed about their minds. 

I do not understand how people can throw negative comments as If it was something normal. 

There is a huge difference between a negative comment and constructive comment. The difference is empathy.

Empathy comes from the times you have been through those same situations on your own and you understand how it feels to be there, broken, screaming without a voice. 

When you have been there, when you have walked those paths it is easy to understand, it is easy to think twice before you say something that can hurt because. 

You know that a scare is a signal of a healed wound but what you don't know is the battle which had to happen, you don't know the pain, you will never know how fragile it was, if it brought victory or learning. 

We all must understand that words can be knives for people and no, it is not because people are too sensitive or too emotional. If it hurts, it hurts, that's it. 

We all are in a world where everything is more about how you look than who you really are, how you feel, how brilliant you are. Brilliant minds are afraid to talk in public because they wear glasses and all people "good looking" call them "4 eyes", chubby people avoid uploading full body pics on social networks because all people will tell them "cow". 

It's easy to wear lens, people rarely will get to know you have myopia in right eye and astigmatism in the left one. It is easy to get into anorexia and bulimia to lose weight as fast as possible. 

But tell me, don't you think it is sad to take those wrong decisions just because you don't want to be criticized instead of you really want it? 

You might say something in a teasing way but you dint know the price it will come, even more, if you are a close friend, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, mom, dad, sister or brother, trust me, that hurt person won't hate you, that's for sure, but its mind will repeat "I hate myself" over and over, its own self-confidence, self-esteem built up in years, built up by tears, will be crumbling down in seconds.

Will you be there to rebuild it?

If you are lucky, that person will tell you what's going on even if her/his voice trembles. If that person is brave enough will tell someone what happened, expecting to get a "you're better than this, you were, you are and you will always be better than this, you are the best your country has ever seen, you are the best the whole world has ever seen, simply you are the best!", or if that person feels really hurt, will leave without saying a word, dying deep inside, shattered and alone because you broke everything that person had. 

Please be always kind, please be humble, please be empathic.